Day3
Whatever you put your time, energy, money into will become more important to you. It is hard to care for something you're not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, "I was thinking of you today"

Ah selfishness. Such an odd, complex thing. Funny that this was yesterday's topic and I spent the evening yelling into the phone at the very person I feel encompasses selfishness, my ex husband. Who was kind enough to send me an e-mail stating he will be relocating soon (to live with his next victim...er...wife) and that presents new "challenges" for tadpole. No challenge here! Just pay me my child support and adios amigo! Okay...sorry, mild vent. Yesterday was a challenge in itself. Okay, first, the dare-to get him a gift. Well, I was lucky to even work up enough bravery to get in my vehicle after spending 45minutes hacking inches thick of ice off my windshield, what could I possibly give him? I waited at the airport for him for an hour, no sign. They had been rerouted to Springfield so I was on standby for another hour. Okay, he wasn't being the most gracious man on the phone, he was tired, hungry, just wanted to be home. And I wasn't much better. But, selfishness...a gift kept playing over in the back of my mind. I know! I'll just give myself as a gift! I will push aside those frustrated feelings and be happy and joyful when he arrives. Listen to all the stories he has to tell, (even though I will be incredibly jealous that he got to go to universal studios while I changed an ungodly amount of diapers in 4 days) with grace and excitement. Phshaw! Easier said than done! But I did it...it was my "gift" (for now) after all. I took him to lunch where I sat and listened to him tell me the story of one of the motivational speakers who completed the Eco challenge (Mocha use to do bike races so this has reved up his motivation to begin again...guess who's gonna tag along :) and he got teary eyed retelling the story, which of course made me teary eyed. It was a beautiful moment, a gift to me that I cherish. We went to a movie and then the evening was ruined by my goofball ex husband. I'm going to listen extra close to him this week and make up for the actual gift, I'll let you know what it will be. In the theme of gifts and being unselfish, leave a comment on this post and I will have a drawing on Wednesday and send the blessed person with a copy of the love dare as well as a journal! Remember, this book was written for both husbands AND wives (boyfriends or girlfriends) so not just my girls can enter! If your name is drawn and you already have a copy of this book, you'll recieve a different book and journal. Good luck!